suddenly, i have no idea why, people around me are sharing their relationships issues with me nowadays. so i thought that i would just post some of my views? heh.
most of the things in relationships actually take two hands to clap.
when one party takes, the other has to give in.
when a hurt is caused, you might have to bear the consequences or after effects longer than you expected to, which might take days, months or even years to heal.
even if eventually the relationship is over, the resulted trauma might remain longer than you thought.
but believe me, time will bland everything and it will be smoother in the future.
everything happens for a reason, even getting hurt. :) it's just that you will realise the reasons for the various incidents much later in your life.
different people has different points of view.
what you think is right, might not be the same for your partner.
these are just a cause of different perspectives.
for example, you might think that it is normal for a couple to meet every single day, but your partner might prefer meeting once a week as to him/her, absence makes the heart fonder.
give and take is crucial as mentioned.
realise when you are taking or giving too much, cause the overall giving/taking by each party should be generally equal.
excessiveness or insufficiency of either aspect is going to be detrimental.
generally girls and guys are different, regardless of physically or mentally or emotionally.
don't expect him/her to read your mind and do what you expect him/her to do without saying anything. it is virtually impossible. unless you really think he/she is edward cullen from twilight. -_-
when quarreling, remember that guys would try and avoid the problems as much as possible and girls would try and solve the problems as fast as possible, and this is where problems arise.
to guys, it's best to forget about the itsy bitsy parts and small details don't matter. but to girls, small things matter the most and every problem must be solved before moving on.
thus, girls refuse to let go until it is 'solved' in their opinions and guys would then feel that girls are unreasonable and pick on them all the time.
and this is usually the main cause for all the endless arguments.
all these boil down to mutual understanding and acceptance for each other's shortcomings and differences.
everyone says to treasure and that they do treasure, regardless relationships or friendships or kinships. but i doubt they really know the method of treasuring.
just love more and expect less.
don't hold onto the mindset of
'if you don't make the effort to talk to me, i won't make the effort to talk to you either' cause it is rather ridiculous. cause you yourself are not making the effort to make this last so don't expect the other party to do so.
i understand that this might be hard to achieve cause i am also trying my best to initiate convers though i really don't like it cause it makes me appear to be needy or irritating or wadever.
but this is life. we just have to continue learning as we go on. knowledge is neverending. :)
okay just some opinions of mine. you may agree or disagree or may even be lazy to read them so wadever i don't care cause i won't know if you are judging and if you do judge you are not worthy of the lovable me keke. :P
time for bed goodnight! blog properly again some other time. ^^
